How To Keep Your Sanity In A New City


The reality of moving to a new city alone is terrifying. What will you do for fun? How will you make friends? What happens if something happens to you? Luckily I already knew a couple familiar faces here in Charlotte, but when it comes time for me to move again I know that probably won’t be the case. Moving to a new city alone is a lot to handle, even if you do know a handful of people to help get you settled. However we are strong, independent women who can handle a big move…. but not without a couple tips on how to keep your sanity in a new city.

Give yourself time to get settled

Let’s start from the beginning… the moving process. Moving never goes as planned and if you don’t know that by now then you probably haven’t moved enough to figure that out. Trust the ones who have and give yourself more than enough time to get settled in. Set your move in date then add a week onto that before you start work, hopefully that will be enough time to get your things settled, organized and lived in. This also opens you up to free time to explore your new surroundings, get acquainted with your neighbors and try a new spin class or nail salon to start meeting potential gal pals!

Don’t be afraid to go it alone

I am so guilty of being THAT girl who gets take out because she doesn’t like to be seen eating alone. That’s so embarrassing…. right? However think of all the opportunities you might be missing by not allowing yourself to be open to new interactions! What friends are you going to make sitting on your couch at home? Give yourself one night a week to head to a new place and make it a point to have a conversation with at least one person while you’re there. If you really hate the idea of going it alone, ask a coworker or neighbor to grab a coffee or a bite to eat with you and invite them to bring along some friends as well. If that isn’t an option then there IS a way you can make friends from the comfort of your home… try downloading Bumble BFF! I did it and am excited to meet some new gal pals, and it doesn’t hurt that you can toggle between the dating section and the BFF section, just saying.

Find your comforts from home

Did you have a favorite taco spot you flocked to every Wednesday? Or a particular coffee shop you went to if you really needed to focus on some work? These spots are what make you comfortable in your community, so why would you not try to find similar spots in your city? Having these familiar places that you can go to are essential to your happiness. They make you feel comfortable and give you a space to belong to. Finding these spaces will also help you meet new people and will give you a reason to ask your Bumble BFF gal pal to try a new taco place with you for margarita night!

Over time not over night

Don’t expect to feel settled into your new city over night. You are going to feel like a transplant for a couple weeks, maybe even months and that’s okay. Think back to when you started college– how long did it take you before you REALLY settled into a routine? Apply that same timeline to moving to a new city, it’ll be awhile before you finally feel comfortable doing all the things that make you feel normal and like yourself again. Recognize that this move might throw you off for a bit, but enjoy that time when you still feel like a tourist in your new city and soak all that it has to offer! Don’t become daunted when you feel like you don’t fit in- you’ll eventually find your niche that will allow you to blossom.

Know your way around

It helps to get familiar with your surroundings and will help cut down on stress during your commute among other things. Take a day to drive around and learn all the different routes you could take to get to where you need to go. Find a grocery store, gas station and anything else you might use on a weekly basis like your bank, nail salon or even just a Chik-Fil-A that’s nearby (an obvious priority for me). Not only will this help you feel more at home but it will also help you stop relying on your GPS to get you around your new town!


  • Great tips! Happy for you and your new life in Charlotte!

    xo, Stephanie

  • Love this! I’ve moved a bunch of times (including to NYC and to Dallas) and this advice is great!!
    XO Amanda |

  • This is so helpful, girl! I’ve lived in the suburbs growing up and then moved to a small college town for my first two years in college, but now I’m moving to Houston in the fall! I’m super nervous about being in a big city and meeting people, but these tips are great. I’ve got to try out Bumble BFF!


    • Yes you need Bumble BFF! It’s so easy and I’ve already met a couple girls from it!

  • Miss ALK

    First off- welcome to Charlotte! I’m a bit biased but after almost four years here I think this is the best city on earth. 😉 Even though I am staying for this year in the city that I went to college in, I don’t want my only friends this year to be my college buddies, so I have been trying to branch out as well and make new friends also! It can definitely be intimidating.

    There is a fantastic blogging community here in Charlotte though, so this is a great city to be in for what you do!

    xoxo A

    • Aw thank you girl! So excited to meet everyone and can’t wait to see you sometime soon I hope!

  • Whitney H

    Have you joined the Tuesdays Together group on Facebook? It’s a group of creatives that meets once a month. I haven’t been yet but I’d really like to go! And as always, if you’d like to get together anytime, I’m totally down! 😉

    • No I haven’t, I would love to though! And yes let’s meet up!

  • Great tips! Definitely take time to settle down!

  • mckenna bleu

    I hope you’re loving Charlotte! I love it there!
    XO, Mckenna |

  • sami moore

    Love these tips – they are so helpful. Best of luck in Charlotte!


    Sami ||

  • Alex Lo

    Great tips! Thanks for sharing! And good luck!!

    Xo, Alex

  • Ashley

    These are great tips!! I hope you are enjoying Charlotte! I’ve always wanted to visit!!

    xo Ashley

  • These are such great tips. Congratulations on the move!

  • Kayleigh

    I love this! I just moved to NYC and it’s been such a struggle after being in college and having that close group to always do things with, so I love this post!

  • Kristin Thompson

    Great tips! A few of my friends are moving to different cities after graduation so I’ll have to share with them!

    The Blush Blonde

  • These are great tips, moving to a new city can be so scary but I really think it is an amazing learning experience!

    • It definitely is. Thanks so much for stopping by!

  • LeighAnn Searle

    Lots of great tips!! I will be sharing these with one of my friends who is moving in August.

  • Such a great post! As someone who is interested in moving to a bigger city, I really appreciated this post.

    XO, SS || Seersucker Sass

  • Eating alone in restaurants has seriously been the biggest struggle for me. I’ve made it a point to give it a try every once and awhile and I realized it’s SO much easier if I sit at the bar and eat there! I hope that I get to move to a new place in the near future and the idea of going at it alone scares me but it’s also SO exciting! Love these tips.

    Rachel /

    • Hm I haven’t tried that! But it’s the biggest struggled for me too! I find that bringing a book helps but then I hate that I’m closed off to everyone around me.

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