The reality of moving to a new city alone is terrifying. What will you do for fun? How will you make friends? What happens if something happens to you? Luckily I already knew a couple familiar faces here in Charlotte, but when it comes time for me to move again I know that probably won’t be the case. Moving to a new city alone is a lot to handle, even if you do know a handful of people to help get you settled. However we are strong, independent women who can handle a big move…. but not without a couple tips on how to keep your sanity in a new city.
Give yourself time to get settled
Let’s start from the beginning… the moving process. Moving never goes as planned and if you don’t know that by now then you probably haven’t moved enough to figure that out. Trust the ones who have and give yourself more than enough time to get settled in. Set your move in date then add a week onto that before you start work, hopefully that will be enough time to get your things settled, organized and lived in. This also opens you up to free time to explore your new surroundings, get acquainted with your neighbors and try a new spin class or nail salon to start meeting potential gal pals!
Don’t be afraid to go it alone
I am so guilty of being THAT girl who gets take out because she doesn’t like to be seen eating alone. That’s so embarrassing…. right? However think of all the opportunities you might be missing by not allowing yourself to be open to new interactions! What friends are you going to make sitting on your couch at home? Give yourself one night a week to head to a new place and make it a point to have a conversation with at least one person while you’re there. If you really hate the idea of going it alone, ask a coworker or neighbor to grab a coffee or a bite to eat with you and invite them to bring along some friends as well. If that isn’t an option then there IS a way you can make friends from the comfort of your home… try downloading Bumble BFF! I did it and am excited to meet some new gal pals, and it doesn’t hurt that you can toggle between the dating section and the BFF section, just saying.
Find your comforts from home
Did you have a favorite taco spot you flocked to every Wednesday? Or a particular coffee shop you went to if you really needed to focus on some work? These spots are what make you comfortable in your community, so why would you not try to find similar spots in your city? Having these familiar places that you can go to are essential to your happiness. They make you feel comfortable and give you a space to belong to. Finding these spaces will also help you meet new people and will give you a reason to ask your Bumble BFF gal pal to try a new taco place with you for margarita night!
Over time not over night
Don’t expect to feel settled into your new city over night. You are going to feel like a transplant for a couple weeks, maybe even months and that’s okay. Think back to when you started college– how long did it take you before you REALLY settled into a routine? Apply that same timeline to moving to a new city, it’ll be awhile before you finally feel comfortable doing all the things that make you feel normal and like yourself again. Recognize that this move might throw you off for a bit, but enjoy that time when you still feel like a tourist in your new city and soak all that it has to offer! Don’t become daunted when you feel like you don’t fit in- you’ll eventually find your niche that will allow you to blossom.
Know your way around
It helps to get familiar with your surroundings and will help cut down on stress during your commute among other things. Take a day to drive around and learn all the different routes you could take to get to where you need to go. Find a grocery store, gas station and anything else you might use on a weekly basis like your bank, nail salon or even just a Chik-Fil-A that’s nearby (an obvious priority for me). Not only will this help you feel more at home but it will also help you stop relying on your GPS to get you around your new town!